Women can be jerks. They can say some of the most hurtful things to each other & then wrap it all up in a sugary, fake smile. And what are women most intimidated by? Other women. Now, in a way I can understand some of this hostility when it comes to competition for dates or jobs…but outside of that, I just don’t get it. Why are women at odds with each other; judging, competing, and intimidating each other?
I’m a bit of a plain jane. I am void of fashion & style. I’ve never been into the whole hair & make-up thing. Even when I had a paying job or, before babies, went to bars I cared more about how I felt than how I looked. Please don’t take my “I don’t care” attitude toward make up & high heels as laziness; it’s just that it’s not important to me & I have a lot of important stuff going on. I’ve had very long hair for most of my life because I always felt that a pony tail was the easiest thing to do with it. But, after the birth of my 3rd child, I decided to chop it all off. I cut it short short–like a boy. At first I really liked it, but after the post-partum shed was over I started longing for my locks again. So, I stopped trimming my hair & just let it grow.
Yup. I’m at that awkward shaggy stage. Nope, it’s not pretty. But unflattering hair is just one of those things that you have have to go through when growing out a pixie cut. And besides, who exactly do I have to impress anyway?
Well, apparently my female “friends”, that’s who. I’ve endured snarky comments about my weight, my clothes, my lack of make-up, and now my hair. I get it ladies!! I’m not a glamorous super model; heck, I’m not even picture perfect. But you know what, despite your ugly remarks thinly veiled by false friendship, I am still confident in myself. You are seeing the me, the real me. Call me ugly if that’s what makes you feel prettier, but at least I have the guts to be real.